There seems to have been quite a bit of talk about feminism amongst my friends and acquaintances in my life lately. The talks have not only been about what the word itself means, but also how one who identifies his or herself as a feminist acts, looks, etc. These conversations generally leave me feeling empty and unsettled, as if I have participated in something that was unkind.
After much mulling over, I figured it out: I find that the act of calling oneself a feminist is inherently condescending because it implies that other women are not.
I thought about writing an entire essay here—and actually started to—but I decided to simply make a list.
REASONS YOU ARE A FEMINIST:
-You read feminist literature
-You read whatever it is you love to read
-You don’t shave
-You don’t wear makeup
-You wear expensive makeup
-You dress conservatively
-You dress provocatively
-You are a vegetarian or vegan
-You are a carnivore
-You resent men
-You love men
-You go to college
-You don’t go to college
-You are confident and love your body
-You have insecurities about your body
-You do what makes you happy
-You work as hard as you can to achieve your dreams
-You make the word work for YOU
-YOU ARE A FUCKING SUPPORTER OF WOMEN
Until people realize that feminism is not a platform from which to judge others, I will continue to identify as a humanist. To the reader: I love you, I respect you, and I think you can be a strong supporter of females for any reason that you see fit.
seeing two excellentexcellentexcellent bands tonight and I should be doing homework or taking a nap or something productive but oh man it is so hard to focus when your favorite acts come to town and you get to drink whiskey with your best friend and your…
DID YOU KNOW THAT NOT A DAY GOES BY WHEN I DO NOT MISS YOU TREMENDOUSLY
seeing two excellentexcellentexcellent bands tonight and I should be doing homework or taking a nap or something productive but oh man it is so hard to focus when your favorite acts come to town and you get to drink whiskey with your best friend and your fucking brains are about to be oozing out of your ears in a few hours anyway
Couldn’t have said it better myself, lady.
Gonna slap on some red lipstick and doc martens and show that city who’s boss with my favorite woman.
“I can see myself celebrating my birthday with Krist and Kurt 20 years from now. I’m happy I made that phone call or I wouldn’t be sitting here right now celebrating my big day with my two best friends. I couldn’t.. um… ask for a better way to celebrate it, dude. I’m kinda hoping Kurt will pop out of the cake later though because that would be rad but even if he doesn’t… life ain’t so shitty anymore!”—Dave Grohl in 1992 on his 23rd birthday (via eddieveddersboner)
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